It could be that your elderly parent has developed narcissism in their old age, this can be due to a variety of reasons, including trauma, or depression. It could also be that they are exhibiting some narcissistic traits because of dementia.
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A narcissist’s ability to charm and impress also diminishes with age, and they become less attractive on every level. Narcissistic supply, or their excessive need for attention and admiration from others, becomes harder to come by.
The overall conclusion is that narcissists do get worse with age. Some would say that narcissists just continue ‘being narcissists’ with the exception that they exhibit more depressive symptoms as they age.
They simply don’t allow society’s negative views of aging to penetrate their identities. For narcissists who rely on denial to get them through tough times, then, aging may represent less of a threat because they refuse to think of themselves as getting older.
You may struggle to distinguish between actual memory problems and gaslighting behaviour, and they may use gaslighting to deal with it. In early stages of dementia, the narcissist will blame others for their forgetfulness, however this could also be a normal occurrence in ageing.
Our findings suggest that elevated scores in narcissistic vulnerability traits may be an important risk factor for dementia. These findings have importance on the design and implementation of preventive strategies for dementia, and in the conceptualization of the multifactorial etiology of Alzheimer’s disease.
Although narcissists act superior to others and posture as beyond reproach, underneath their grandiose exteriors lurk their deepest fears: That they are flawed, illegitimate, and ordinary.
The narcissist feels threatened when they lose control; they are afraid they will be exposed for who they really are, and they are petrified of losing their narcissistic supply. They can’t bear this feeling, and to defend themselves against this gut-wrenching emotion, the narcissist will go into attack mode.
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Loneliness and Isolation – Due to the first three factors described above, most narcissists have few, if any healthy, close and lasting relationships. Some higher-functioning narcissists achieve external success in life – at the expense of others – and find themselves lonely at the top.
Highly narcissistic people hate seeing others being happy. Its because they themselves are unable to feel genuine happiness. They will use numerous mind-bending delusions and justifications to explain why your happiness is, in so many words, an act of aggression against them.
For many narcissists, siblings are a vital component of narcissistic supply, often due to your position of vulnerability and powerlessness as a child, and you become the target of your brother or sister’s desperate and insatiable search for psychological cohesion and consolidation of their disordered beliefs.
In the end, it appears they get exactly what they deserve. A long line of research demonstrates that the self-confidence and charm displayed by narcissists can actually be an advantage when it comes to building alliances. But a new study adds a substantial wrinkle to these earlier findings.
They don’t have any (or many) long-term friends. Most narcissists won’t have any long-term, real friends. Dig deeper into their connections and you may notice that they only have casual acquaintances, buddies they trash-talk, and nemeses. As a result, they might lash out when you want to hang out with yours.
It turns out that the balance of empathy may be connected with how narcissistic one’s personality is. While more narcissistic people can be entertaining and often great fun to spend time with, their inability to pay attention to other people’s needs can make it feel lonely to be around them even when we’re not alone.