What to do When an Elderly Parent Refuses to Move
18 General Tips for Dealing With Stubborn, Aging Parents
What’s an adult child to do when their aging parent insists on living independently? The only way you can legally force someone to move into a long-term care facility against their will is to obtain guardianship (sometimes called conservatorship) of that person.
What Do You Do When Your Elderly Parent Can’t Live Alone?
It is important for family members to maintain an optimistic attitude in order to encourage the person with dementia to view the move as positive. Telling the person with dementia “I’m glad you came to live here, now we can spend more time together” can help to make them feel welcome, safe and secure.
Get Legal Support. If your loved one absolutely refuses assisted living but is in danger, you may need to get outside support. An elder care lawyer can help you review your options, advise you about seeking guardianship, or even refer you to a geriatric social worker who can help. Your loved one may be angry and hurt.
There are many reasons a senior may become stubborn, a few are because they: Feel depressed about the deaths of spouse, friends, and/or family. Feel they’re being left out of the family. Fear the family might place them in a nursing home.
Let’s face it, moving to assisted living is a huge decision and a major life change; adjustment isn’t easy. In fact, experts suggest it can take 3-6 months on average for most people to adjust to the move. That said, there are things you can do to make the transition more comfortable for your loved one.
They Can’t Take Care of Themselves Some other signs about when is it time to place a parent in a nursing home are that they: Need help eating, using the restroom, standing, walking, laying down, and performing personal hygiene routines. No longer remembers to eat, bathe, or perform other important rituals.
If he’s still relatively healthy and independent, this may be the ideal time to move him in. Most people don’t consider caring for an elderly parent in their own home until he has some sort of health setback or crisis. In that case, it’s very likely you’ll be coping with the person’s chronic illness.
While many older adults can get by on their own, the reality is that many need extra attention and care. According to reports, roughly 29 percent of elderly adults lived alone as of 2010 – despite the fact that 12 percent of seniors needed assistance completing activities of daily living (ADLs).